How does an Arminian explain how a loving God damns people to Hell? How does a Calvinist explain holding people responsible for things he made them do? The whole debate is created by a poor hermeneutic used by both Calvin and Arminius which was inherited from Augustine. Greeks ask stupid questions of a Hebrew text rather than let the text speak for itself.
God's love is not what Augustine, Calvin nor Arminius imagined it to be, but is revealed in the usurping second son motif which pervades the scriptures. God declares in his love "The first will be last" as he places man before himself on the cross.